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The Psychology of Women - Learning From Biology

If you're a man in a relationship, you may have encountered times when you thought you were being tested by your significant other.
Perhaps she said something or did something in a matter that seemed, well, odd and perhaps you happened to be married to one of those girls who seem to really love to push your buttons when the time is right.
Well let us sit back for a moment and think about it.
Why is the notion of the 'nagging housewife' such a dominant cliche in all aspects of society? Why do women seem to invoke so many challenges in our male desire to court them? Why do girls give out their phone numbers with careless abandon, and yet never respond to the men who call? Well the answer to the question may be contained in the field of evolutionary psychology.
Consider this quote from world renowned psychologist David Buss:
In the species called the gladiator frog, males are responsible for creating nests and defending the eggs.
In the majority of courtships, a stationary male is deliberately bumped by a female who is considering him.
She strikes him with great force, sometimes enough to rock him back or even scare him away.
If the male moves too much or bolts from the nest, the female hastily leaves to examine alternative mates.
Most females mate with males who do not move or who move minimally when bumped.
- The Evolution of Desire: Strategies for Human Mating by David M Buss PhD, Page 38
Now what can we venture to infer from this quote? We note that in many species, females must invoke testing routines in an effort to ascertain and gauge a male's physical and mental dexterity.
In the above example, truly, that's what our frog female seems to be doing.
Now one might ask the question, can we infer that female displays of moodiness are merely the result of a women's evolved need to continually test her mate.
If you are a man and you are reading this for the first time, you may be a bit put-off by the implications of evolutionary psychology.
But please, don't develop any sense of malice for women.
Because, as we can see, after all, it isn't her fault anyway.
It's no one's fault.
It's just evolution doing what it does best -- trying to ensure the survival of the species.
This was the point of Richard Dawkins book The Selfish Gene.
He argues that the genes themselves are looking out for their own interests.
So, in fact, though her conscious mind really doesn't want to engage in this sort of game playing, in actuality these games are essential because this is how our species evolves.
Truly, that's what David Buss argues in his book.
And it is a considerable contribution to the ongoing Battle of the Sexes.


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