Health & Medical Adolescent Health

What Stops Children From Being Empowered?

Between the ages of 0 and 8 years old, known as the imprint period, children follow and learn from those people they trust.
If the children trust their parents, teachers or siblings then they learn from them.
This learning is often through observation and feelings.
In other words, it is not what is said to the child, but how the child views the person they trust who influences what the child learns.
When that observed person is a confident and happy person who enjoys life, this is what the child observes and may pick this up as a behaviour to use in the future.
When the person has issues that make them sad, depressed, fearful, lonely or other uncomfortable feelings, then the child will pick up on these and store them as ways of behaviour.
They may use be behaviour immediately or depending on what goes on in their life, will influence whether they display that behaviour in the future.
Children can be empowered or disempowered.
It depends on what the decisions they make based on the behaviours they observed from those they trust.
When a child believes they have no control of their lives, and do not know how to get it back, they become disempowered.
The child usually mentally makes a decision on this which impacts their emotions and physically behaviour.
Let's take the impact of bullying.
Now days there are many cases of bullying.
Originally it was in person, now it is also on their mobile phones and the internet such as Facebook.
It can happen at school, at home, in sport or at work.
If the child is continuously attacked mentally, emotionally or physically they will decide how to react to the bullying.
If they have observed confident people in their life who have control in adverse conditions, they may just stand up to the bully and fight back.
However, if the child has learned from people who is fearful, unloving or lack confidence in dealing with issue, the child may demonstrate this type of behaviour.
This can result in continuously being bullying as the child attracts it to them through their thoughts and behaviours.
A study was done of criminal's charged with bag snatching.
They were put into a room and told to watch a video that was being taken of people in the street below.
The bag snatchers were asked to identified the people whose bag they would try and steal and why.
The study identified the main reason why a person was picked was due to the way the person looked.
They showed in their behaviour that they were concerned about their handbag and so hung on tight to their bag.
They did not look at anyone and usually looked down.
They tried to ignore the situation, and hoped all would be ok.
So if you know of a child who is not empowered, what thought and behaviours do you show them? Do you help them be confident and safe or something else?


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