Health & Medical Parenting

Dealing With Toddler Temper Tantrums

Your beautiful baby is growing up and now is the time to spread your wings with him.
Maybe even take him to a restaurant for the first time.
You are so proud of him and everyone is saying how good he is when wham bang - what is happening? The wonderful baby who you were just admiring only one minute ago has now transformed into a monster and is throwing a full-blown tantrum.
What did you do wrong? Why is he doing this? He just will not stop crying.
He is screaming he wants to go home.
Welcome to the world of the toddler temper tantrums.
It is not that he hates you or the restaurant you are at.
He is frustrated, as he does not have the language skills to communicate with you what he wants.
He is in an unknown environment and feels threatened.
There are going to be many occasions in this 2 to 3-year-old period, that this feeling and the resulting tantrum comes to light.
So what do you do when your child throws a tantrum?
  • It is best for you, not to lose your cool.
    Speak softly and calmly to him and he may eventually react.
  • Do not walk away from him, however tempting this may be, as it could make him worse as he will also feel abandoned.
  • Do not allow yourself to be dragged down to his level.
    Do not start screaming at him and smacking him.
    This will only prolong the tantrum.
  • Do bend down and lift him up.
    This could result positively by him turning to you for comfort.
  • If there is a chance of danger for either the child or someone around him as a result of his tantrum, take him to another room and talk to him.
    Just keep telling him he is loved and you want to see his smile.
These are some ways to deal with your child's tantrums but there could also be ways to prevent some tantrums.
You may realise after a few episodes that he throws tantrums when hungry.
Combat this by taking snacks with you when shopping or visiting friends.
Being over tired is another trigger for many 2 year olds.
Their brain does not function properly when over tired.
Correct this problem by letting him have a short nap before going out.
These are some ways that can help you control your child's tantrums.
One thing to remember is not to feel that you are the only Mother going through this time.
The "Terrible Two's" is a well-known saying and most toddlers have thrown a tantrum or two.
Your child is growing all the time and when his skills improve so will his ability to control his emotions.


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