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How to Avoid a Cult When Choosing Alternatives!

"It was an experience like no other.
I never felt so free and cared about.
It was worth every penny and I will find the money to continue to learn from him.
Yes, I gave up time with my friends and family and I missed some important milestones for them, but they just don't understand my teacher and my new path and the higher path that is the only one necessary for mankind.
I know it will be hard for me to become the best that I can be, I am so flawed, he says, but I try to improve and to be pure like him, but my negative programming has hurt me so.
I do not blame them for the ignorance they taught me and I hope that they will find the path one day, until then I will have no contact.
The evil zingos are always a danger to our enlightenment and they make me doubt at times but volunteering helps me to purify myself...
so does writing the master a soul letter with all my doubts and clarifying with pure light...
" Sound crazy? Well, it's not.
Every year perfectly sane and intelligent people are slowly lured into destructively bizarre cults.
Could this happen to you? If you are "statistically normal" the answer is "yes.
" Yes, you and just about everyone else you know are susceptible to changing your beliefs little by little, quieting your sense of reason and abandoning your friends and loved ones as you adapt to the worldview of a new social group.
It's our ability to adapt to a social environment that's to blame.
If you or I were born in medieval Europe we would most likely hold significantly different beliefs and those who are so rigid so as not to be able to adapt to a new social environment have a difficult time surviving and thriving.
Most of us have had the experience of being around a person or a peer group who have influenced us in some way.
Substance Abusers are advised to stay away from the old drinking holes because the social lure of the old life is strong and the beliefs that a habitual substance abuser holds are different from those of a teetotaler.
Now suppose an average person goes through some sort of crisis in life, they lose a family member, or move or lose a job or just feel out of sorts.
Someone may well approach them and offer a solution.
"Hey I hear this guy is amazing and he makes you feel great.
" So the person "checks out" the group, just sort of puts their foot in the waters, so to speak.
They are welcomed with open arms (sometimes literally with opened arms.
) They hear only good things.
Everyone seems happy and warm and welcoming.
It feels good.
There is a glimmer of hope so a plan is made to visit the group again for a weekend.
There is a speaker this time.
He's great he is so inspirational and really makes the listener feel hopeful about a lot of things.
A few people are rude to him during the meeting, they sound foolish.
He tells them the choice is up to them, his ideas are only for those "ready" for them.
The average person wonders if they are "ready" they want to be ready to feel so good.
Over time the highs are interspersed with lows.
Good times come at a price.
Those who are "ready" are willing to go through the tough to get to the good...
that initial emotional high, that comes in a cycle now and when the leader chooses it.
The average person learns the jargon of the group.
Words are used in different ways here.
the outside world doesn't seem interested in what the new member has to say and they don't seem "ready" "enlightened" and less time is spent with them and more with those who "get it" those on the mission the new member is on.
Soon, money, time are donated for the group.
It feels wonderful, hard, spiritual..
" In the outside world people are growing concerned about the average person who has joined this group.
Family events are missed.
All conversation sounds like preaching.
They watch their loved ones time and money flow to some weird source.
Relationships end, jobs are lost, critical thinking seems missing.
There is such certainty in what sounds like such nonsense to those listening.
They may decide that their loved one has gone crazy or simply doesn't care for friends and families.
The impact can be devastating and hurtful.
Meanwhile, the cult member is doing more and more for the cult.
The cult generally benefits one person, the leader who quite often is charming, charismatic, manipulative, paranoid, narcissistic and may well hold very bizarre beliefs.
Crossing the cult leader is dangerous.
Revenge is the weapon of choice for the cult leader who is threatened and an army of undoubting followers will be happy to carry vengeful actions out for love of the god like leader they worship.
Worship of the cult leader becomes virtuous to cult members and those suffering his wrath are systematically dehumanized.
In fact the cult comes to define humanity, reality and morality.
The average person is you or I.
The dynamics of a cult are hard to see until one is free of it.
Besides the love bombing, jargon, emotional cycles, quests for purity, confessions of doubt, donations of time and money and social isolation, all cults involve an inherent imbalance of power in favor of the cult leader.
Cult leaders are worshiped and they will have it no other way!

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